A bad relationship will not only make your life harder, but constant fights can also lead to severe depression. Being the only one putting effort into a relationship can be exhausting and tiring, especially when you don’t know where the 2 of you are heading. If it feels as if your relationship is going in circles, it is best to calmly think about whether it is worth saving at all.
Mydailyup has found 10 signs that can help you decide the fate of your relationship.
1. Your partner avoids spending time with you.
If your partner never seems to find enough time for you, but is always ready to spend time with others, this is a sign that they don’t find you interesting anymore. When you really want to be with someone, you find time for them, there’s no other way around it.
2. You feel like a totally different person than you were before.
When you truly love someone, you accept them as they are. Wanting to change the person you are dating or their habits is not a healthy sign. You shouldn’t have to give up on your hobbies or interests, or feel guilty about doing something your partner simply disapproves of for no reason. If you were happier and more free before, and feel too caged-in in your relationship, you should probably leave it.
3. You are no longer each other’s go-to person.
Communication is the key to lasting relationships and if you find it difficult to open up to your partner, share your secrets with them, and rather talk to someone other than your partner, something might be wrong.
4. Most of your conversations turn into fights.
And, whenever you do talk, if you end up arguing over something, that’s not a great sign either. Expressing your individual thoughts is healthy, but finding yourself fighting over little things really often is not.
5. Your heart no longer flutters at the thought of your partner.
Of course, as your relationship progresses and you get over the “honeymoon phase,” the initial excitement fades. But, that doesn’t mean that all the sparks will also fade with time. If thinking about your partner doesn’t bring a smile to your face anymore or make you happy in any way, it is probably best to let them go.
6. Your partner is all “receiving” and not “giving.”
A relationship requires equal effort from both sides in order to sail smoothly. If you are constantly doing things to repair and strengthen your relationship, but your partner is indifferent, get yourself somebody who actually appreciates you.
7. Your relationship feels dry and boring.
Not every day in your love life is going to be straight out of a movie but it doesn’t have to be boring either. From simply cooking together to going for a walk on the beach, there are a hundred little things couples can do to spark joy and excitement. All it requires is the willingness to make an effort to keep things exciting.
8. You are not growing in the relationship.
Growth is a very important aspect of any relationship, be it personal or mutual growth. People in happy relationships lift each other up and grow together. If that’s not the case for you and instead of inspiring you, your partner believes in dragging you down, it is probably best to just end the relationship.
9. You are not on your partner’s priority list.
It’s unrealistic to be your partner’s top priority always, but you should definitely be on their list. They should try to be there whenever you need them or at least make an effort to find out how you are doing.
10. You don’t feel loved or wanted.
Love and warmth are what keeps a relationship going. If all you do is cry because of your partner, you need to think hard about why you are dating an dud. Fights and marital problems take a worse toll on your health than you think. Remember that you deserve to be happy and your mental health matters!
Have you ever been in a situation where you had to choose between holding on and letting go? Did you regret your decision?
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